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Equality? PT1

Posted in Gay Rights, Love, Politics, Rant with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on June 13, 2010 by phoenixjeff

A foreign concept in deed for the United States at this point in time, is Equality. Hateful, bigoted people want to, and are succeeding in denying rights to a myriad of individuals, right now I’m talking about the EXTENDED GLBTIQ Community. Gays, Lesbians, Bi-Sexuals, Trans-Gendered, Intersex, and Questioning(sometimes Queer) individuals…..

Supposedly, according to the Right and a few “Moderate” individuals, the 14 Amendment doesn’t apply to the “GLBTIQ” community. I do NOT advocate the changing over night of a nation, what I do argue against is that this would be an over night change, that somehow the legalization of Gay Marriage would have detrimental consequences to “families”, as if their haven’t been children brought up in gay household for centuries., what these people are really saying is that a “gay family” isn’t good enough, and their children don’t deserve to have their parent’s love for eachother validated by their state, their Slave’-Taxing STATE, for thats the onyl definition I can give an institution that unFairly taxes their cisitzens.

I have a Myriad discontent to voice about the mistreatment of the  Trans-Gendered and Intersexed community, like their continued lumping in with the gay community much to their Chagrin. These people ARE NOT a Sexuality like, Gay, Lesbian, and Bi-Sexual, for they can either of those. Trans-Gendered people and Intersexed people are GENDERS!! and Sexes!!…A Trans-Man for example can be either Gay or Bi-Sexual, this may be a concept hard to grasp but its the truth…so many details so little time, Goodness forbid that someone take the time to learn about people other than themselves, and grasp the basic human fact that the world and all of our experiences are relative and not black and white set in stone.

Marriage for the Gay Community is FAR from the only worry the gay community has to face, in my opinion Hate Crimes protections are Paramount, followed by Adoption and Worker’s Rights, but seeing as though Marriage comes with 1000s of unspoken rights, Gay Marriage has moved to the forefront of the Gay Rights Movement. I do not believe that who I have sex with should be a legal means of deprivation of my Livelihood, basically I shouldn’t be able to be fired from my job for Gay Sex. The “Ick” factor has been used in various “tasteful” articles these passed few months, for the feeling straight men get when thinking about two-men kissing as opposed to lesbians. This isn’t valid, I don;t understand how in a society as socially and technologically advanced as ours that this is accepted SCIENCE, and Political Logic?!

Adoption should be a no brainer, a child wants to be loved. The “Right” would rather deny a child a family, and be alone than to allow a child a loving caring household…

They Equate Homosexuality with Bestiality and Pedophilia, simply put Gay MEN are rapists of everyone including animals. The Right argues that opening up Gay Marriage nationally will lead to Beast-Human Marriages and Child-Man Marriages, seriously? Theres a BIG GIGANTIC difference….animals and children are not consenting adults, and Animals Children cannot sign CONTRACTS, so how would this open up any type of Marriage except those performed by TWO consenting Adults…..but then even if that argument is negated logically, someone will always play the Polygamy card….I wont even get started…

Some might argue that they just want marriage for straight people and don’t mind civil unions. I negate this with various websites, and propaganda filled television interviews that denounced gay marriage and ALL marriage “related” institutions…so once again GAY RIGHTS ORGANISATIONS that point is inValid….we need to get smart, we need to get organised and we need to separate ourselves from those mis-informed Gay “Rights” workers who would advocate Civil Union over Marriage because its “easier”…I’ll bring up one of my favorite all-time Quotes from the Original Civil Rights Movement of the 60s…”Seperate is NOT Equal” my anybody’s Scales…


Gay Marriage: 8 Random Points

Posted in Love, Politics with tags , , , , on December 31, 2009 by phoenixjeff
“this is the FIRST in a Long Line of course…Who didnt expect this. I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t post something like this”
  1. This Is A Christian Country?:
    1. A Christian country?! Aren’t only three of our laws from the Ten Commandments? And do you really expect someone to believe that it’s because of the Bible, that we have these laws? And not because we don’t want our families killed, and our things stolen? We’re all Atheists on some level, you believe in a Christian god, but by doing so, you’re denying the existence of 100s of other just as valid deities
  2. The Dictionary?:
    1. And Marriage being between a man and a woman in the dictionary? Ok, but contrary to popular belief humans came before dictionaries, not only that but dictionaries are supposed to reflect the times, they are not meant to dictate our lives in the least bit, but help to keep track of our words.
  3. Genes:
    1. Gay people not being able to pass genes isn’t even a valid argument, because gay people can pass on their genes, even if it’s not “natural” although gay men and gay women can have sex with each other to have children so again it’s not valid.
  4. Nature?:
    1. Homosexuality is found in nature. But even though it’s found in nature, that doesn’t mean anything because there are 100s if not 1000s of things found in nature that aren’t desirable to humans in our lives.
  5. They affect ME?:
    1. How can a gay couple getting married affect you in any way? You have nothing to do with gay people filing their taxes, are being able to see their loved one in the hospital or even a gay person being able to keep their partner’s child.
  6. Gay Parents=Gay Children:
    1. Children do not become gay from gay parents, the same way gay children don’t become straight because of straight parents.
  7. Ill Will Toward Children?:
    1. How can a gay family be denied existence because of the fact that gay people aren’t accepted so it will be harmful to the family. Or that even a gay family isn’t right just because it will bring harm with no valid reason? What about a person joining the military? That could bring in drastic negative effects of a family, especially if the parent dies?
  8. No Childrens?:
    1. Gay people can’t have children, but what about singles, what about infertile couples, what about seniors?

Does Reminiscing make me sad/ Are Insecurities always bad?

Posted in Love on December 24, 2009 by phoenixjeff

During reminiscing I find myself sometimes staring into space and thinking about the good times I’ve had in my most recent relationship. Thinking of all the good times we had, all the insecurities I had within myself at the beginning hoping they wouldn’t have an adverse affect on this new person in my life. My heart tell me sometimes “you better stop doing this to me, or I’m going to cry” but my mind tells my heart “we don’t need to cry about this, we expected it, and we dealt with it accordingly”. Truth is I don’t know if my mind is right because at the end of the day what really bothers me is that I’m even able to say to myself don’t cry.  I have never been a person to hide my emotions; I don’t think I should have to pretend to be somebody I’m not. This fact though brings me to focus of this blog.

Reminiscing doesn’t always have to make you sad; it’s only human to miss those things that made you happy. It’s also only human to want to experience those things again and feel those feelings again. A bad experience one time shouldn’t keep you from trying your best to live your life to the fullest, and it definitely shouldn’t make you feel as though you need to punish the next person for your past misfortunes.

So yes, reminiscing is “sad” per-say, but no reminiscing doesn’t make me sad. What makes me sad is the feeling of wasted time, or effort, maybe even the fact that I loved someone who obviously didn’t love me back. At the end of the day though, I’m finally at the point where I can see that all is not lost. I feel like the memories I had are memories for a reason, and with all this life ahead of me I can’t help but wonder what new memories I’ll soon be strong enough to experience romantically.

Insecurities vary depending on how you personally want to define them. So while Insecurity defined as “Lacking self-confidence; plagued by anxiety” it can also be defined as “Inadequately guarded or protected” the later will be my definition. Insecurities to me are those parts of you that you hide from others as to protect yourself from harm emotionally. Most of the time only those people closest to you know those insecurities just by being around you for an extended period of time and getting to know you, someone like a brother or best friend.  These insecurities can lead to quite a few positive traits as well, let’s say you’re the type of person who falls to fast, sooner or later all the pain will lead you to become a hermit of sorts with your heart. You will find yourself protecting your heart by not letting it out to soon, not saying the L-Word” to fast, and finally being able to build a relationship with someone without investing too much too soon.

Socially insecurities are more often than not associated with a person’s bad characteristic, my insecurities though actually worked positively from my aspect of the relationship. They allowed me to be prepared for the “jackassery” to come. I do have a bit of advice though, although everyone has their insecurities, it may be best to not let them control your life, you have to live and let live. Some things just aren’t worth stressing over…I mean think about the things insecurities do for us that are positive, everyone is different. The trick is to overcome those insecurities, and until they are overcome use them to your advantage, if you know you fall to fast, protect yourself, if you know you have issues with clinginess get a hobby!

Introduction to Love & Politics

Posted in Love, Politics on December 22, 2009 by phoenixjeff

My two greatest passions in life, the study of Politics and the mystery of this elusive emotion we call Love.

  1. Politics:
    • Senators, Presidents, Representatives to the United States, Supreme Court Justices, House Speakers, Cabinet Secretaries, and randomly GDPs and Population Statistics. I love it all, how could I not write about it….?
  2. Love:
    • I’m a true romantic type of guy, I believe in Real-Love, Soul-Mates, Love conquering all. Naive subjects I admit but I cant help it, IDK where I get it, IDK where I see it, IDK how to experience it, but what I do know……is that Love has to be out there for everyone there are nearly 7 billion of us after all.